Trail Mix :: No. 11
The Permission Slip You Need To Give Yourself, 2 Podcast Episodes I'd Listen to Again, A Gorgeous Poem For the Future of Our Planet, Important Thoughts On Divorce, and More!
And welcome to the Trail Mix Weekly-ish Letters for us curious and ambitious folks. Below you’ll find a colorful assortment of goodness to keep you fueled and inspired for all your various adventures- my top 5 favorite reads, listens, resources, & other interesting tidbits, plus an exclusive peek into my personal journey each week.
Rummage through the words and resources below and snag only the pieces you find the tastiest.
First up, some words from me to you.
The Permission Slip You Need To Give Yourself If You Feel All Over The Place.
What an epic waste.
What have I been doing for the last 20 years? I was all over the place. Switching majors, taking seemingly unrelated classes, sticking my hand in a few creative endeavors and ideas at once, with little to show for it.
No money. No loyal readers. No clients. No breakthroughs. Ultimately, no success.
Was/Is my lack of direction and clarity cause for worry?
If only I could have got my shit together sooner, think of how much I could have accomplished?
How about I channel my passion into something productive and dare I say money-making?
Then, I remembered the permission slip I gave to myself - to just try stuff. Essentially to let life be one big experiment.
Experiments are stressful and strained and eventually ruined when certain results are the end goal, the expectation.
I may be floundering around, yes, and I’m also having fun, gathering data, information, and clues. Learning, exploring, discovering, and playing.
The Professionals though, keep urging me to stay insanely focused and intentional, to cut my days into precise hours and tattoo my why across my forehead. They push me to have a vision and clarity, to stay in my lane and make my brand smooth and sleek.
Success will come if you get clear on where you are going, they remind me.
They make six figures sound like a guarantee if I follow this plan or that marketing scheme, make my website more attractive, my call to action irresistible, and meet the right people.
Some days I buy into their message, quite literally. I recognize the value and necessity of their experience and wisdom and I pay for them to tell me more.
And yet, The Professionals seem to make life more serious than it needs to be, than is healthy. Their advice is prescriptive instead of an invitation to innovate, to wander, to experiment.
We need plans. We need an income. We need next steps. And at the very same time we need to throw a bunch of random things into a test tube, mix together a concoction of who-knows-what, stand back and see what happens.
A colorful explosion? Frightening flames? A toxic gas? Who knows what will be released from within you!
Perhaps, too, in your devotion to experiment and try stuff you’ll…
finish writing your book,
land an exciting job,
move to another country/city,
stumble upon a secret passion, or more importantly…
you’ll meander your way into an interesting life, filled with endless stories, knowing nothing is ever wasted, and nobody really has any clue what they’re doing here anyways, even when they sound like The Professional.
Now, onto some more Trail Mix goodies!
1. For Any Writers Out There:
-And I’ve been nerding out on the extremely helpful and easy-to-read articles from Digital Writing Compass.
2. Our Birthday Bag Tradition:
We had a birthday in our house this week. Last year, we accidentally found a birthday tradition and I need to tell you about it. Are you ready for it? It’s too easy.
Grab a birthday gift bag, just one of those wrinkled, battered ones from your closet.
Fill it with the birthday person’s favorite, mainly consumable treats.
Nothing fancy here folks. It could be their favorite cereal, box cake mix, chocolate bar, or drink. If we are feeling extravagant we might include a new shirt, a magazine, or a book. Everyone wins.
3. If You Know Anyone Going Through A Divorce:
I was listening to a podcast on relationships, the author being interviewed went through a divorce and she said something that made me press pause and immediately call my friend who is also walking through a divorce.
The woman said she wished more people would have looked her in the eyes like her friend did and say, “Congratulations. Good for you. I’m happy for you. That’s a strong move.” Instead, most people just took pity on her and said something to the effect of, “I’m so sorry.”
She went on to explain how divorce, as emotional and brutal as it can be, is also a time for celebration. It is a brave decision. Divorce doesn’t mean your life or your or your family are broken and damaged. Divorce can be done well, it can be a success too.
4. Motivation To Stop Buying So Much Plastic Junk & Love Our Planet Well
Plastic Recycling Doesn’t Work and Will Never Work- a really short and to-the-point, informative article on The Atlantic
This interview between Ayana and Krista Tippett for On Being is a much-needed reminder to imagine what we are running toward in this planetary crisis…does it have to be all doom? Does it have to be a treacherous cliff? Might we have everything we need already to walk towards a better future for all?
Ayana also read this poem by environmentalist, Ayisha Siddiqa, entitled, “On Another Panel About Climate, They Ask Me To Sell The Future And All I’ve Got Is A Love Poem.”
Every line is stunning. Read it for yourself. It starts like this,
And 2 Podcast Episodes You MUST Make Time For:
The Unknowing Podcast From Brie Stoner: “The Trust Fall Into Love: Weaving Wonder and Wild Beauty” with Felicia Murrell
“Your creative expression is a love that has cosmic influence, whether you as the creator of that creation see the end result of that influence or not.” Felicia Murrell
And of course, The Robcast: Quote Yourself. I could listen to this episode over and over again.
And this concludes our weekly-ish handful of Trail Mix. Thank you for snacking with me and if you found something delicious here, please tell me about in the comments!
Some tiny weekend adventures for you: Go for a walk in the rain. Paint. Write a hand-written thank you note.
Traveling with you,